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		<title>Moving Blog</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Oct 2009 23:21:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Readers I have moved my blog to http://transformative.com.au/blog and will be posting from this site from now on. I have taken all my posts from this site over to my &#8220;new look&#8221; blog. I have an RSS feed feature on my site so you can receive posts directly to your email if you would enjoy that. Please [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=938&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Making Cooperative Agreements</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; This is usually the who, what, when and how of the process. What’s the plan? &#160; Once everyone is feeling heard and understood there is a natural energy to come to an agreement – to start putting in place strategies that meet needs.&#160; It is tempting at this stage to rush through the agreement [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=916&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Jumping over the communication barriers</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Sep 2009 07:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sometimes it seems like no matter how good the shared intentions are old patterns of communication come into the conflict resolution process. &#160; Here are some insights into what may be going on within yourself or with the other person and how to find a way forward. &#160; &#160; Not wanting to discuss a particular [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=913&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Sources of Conflict: Who saw what?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Sep 2009 07:39:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson went on a camping trip. After a good meal and a bottle of wine they bunked down for the night and went to sleep. Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his friend. &#160; “Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see.” Watson replied, “I see [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=910&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>A trap for the conflict unwary</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 30 Aug 2009 06:16:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was recently trying to work through a misunderstanding and I had just finished reflecting back what I had heard the other person saying. I guessed their feelings and needs and they breathed a big sigh of relief and said: “I am so glad you really get it and agree with me!” Oh dear. I [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=928&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Getting on the same page right from the start</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 23 Aug 2009 07:36:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[“We judge other people by their outsides, that is their behaviours, words and actions and we judge ourselves by our insides that is our intentions.&#34; Virginia Satir When we are in conflict it can be almost impossible to imagine finding any place of agreement and usually that is because we are in conflict over strategies [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=906&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>That didn&#8217;t work out so well? Don&#8217;t give up &#8211; ask for a replay.</title>
		<link>http://transformativeliving.wordpress.com/2009/08/16/that-didnt-work-out-so-well-dont-give-up-ask-for-a-replay/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 16 Aug 2009 05:54:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I just have to share this from Holly Eckert. If you&#160; like what you read then subscribe to her newsletter – it’s always full of wonderful anecdotes and NVC gems by going to http://hollyeckert.com/ &#160; Proposing a &#34;Replay&#34; Despite our best intentions to speak with honesty and empathy, we all experience some conversations which end [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=925&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Untangling Conflict with 3 questions</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 09 Aug 2009 06:43:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[3 simple eye-opening questions that can untangle conflict. By Tammy Lenski http://conflictzen.com/ &#160; One of those characteristics is clarity…what it’s really about and what most needs to be discussed to clear the air and get back on track. I want to offer up three eye-opening questions that can unlock even the most complicated conflicts. &#160; [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=903&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>What stops us from resolving conflict?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Aug 2009 05:21:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[“I don’t know why I couldn’t work it out with him” a friend said to me recently. “I just couldn’t find it in me to get the conversation started, it all feels so familiar and I can’t see what difference it would make. We’ve been over this so many times before and nothing really changes.” [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=932&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Inner Conflict Patterns:</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Jul 2009 06:41:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you ever wished you could deal with conflict differently? Do you notice a pattern in your life around conflict. As soon as we are in a conflict or see a conflict coming up we tend to revert to a tried and true pattern – even if it has never really given us the connection [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=transformativeliving.wordpress.com&amp;blog=4830258&amp;post=900&amp;subd=transformativeliving&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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