Don’t set goals for 2009
Posted December 29, 2008on:
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Are you getting ready for the New Year?
What does this mean for you?
Out with the old? Releasing thoughts, habits, ways of being in relationships that do not bring joy or happiness?
In with the new? Making plans, setting goals?
I know I often come up with a list of strategies about what I’m going to do but this year I am going to list the values I want to enhance and strengthen in my life first. Why?
Strategies are just ways we think up to meet a set a values. If we choose a set of strategies, or even one strategy, without an awareness of the value that is supporting then we might:
Be restricting our creativity ~ there might 100 ways we can meet a value but usually our thinking mind thinks of only 2 or 3 strategies
Be setting ourselves up to fail ~ we stop exercising as often as we promised and then we give ourselves a hard time about that or make a series of excuses letting ourselves off the hook
Be setting ourselves up to use will-power which can be mentally draining rather than find joy, self-care and purpose in our goals.
So, I invite you to consider which values you would like to pay attention to in 2009 via a touchstone word…
A Better New Year’s Ritual
a simple touchstone word
available anytime, anywhere!
Pick a word that will guide you throughout the year.
It will be your touchstone.
It would remind you of living your life at the values level.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t take action. It meant that your actions are inspired from your values.
YOUR WORD FOR 2009
Look through this list – you may find a word in here or it may prompt you to add one…
Get quiet over the next few minutes. And pick a word for the year.
Just one word. That’s all. Then, hold that word in your mind throughout the year, and let your word guide you to take action.
For instance, let’s take one of the examples above.
Let’s say you are one of the many people who would normally choose “Get Organized.” You look around to see clutter and crap all over your life. You’re tired of the chaos. So, you think, “I need to get organized. That should be my Resolution this year.”
You decide to try picking one word as a touchstone to your intentions and values.
You sit with your clutter. You spend a few days pondering words that will inspire you. You realize in an “Ah-Ha!” moment that you tend to cling to lots of things. You’re scared to let go. So you choose the word “Release” because it inspires you in a bigger way than “Get organized.”
So, every time you approach your clutter you remind yourself of that word. “Release,” you say softly. You start to let the clutter go. Eventually, you realize that you’re still holding on to lots more than just physical clutter. You realize that you hold onto resentment at old relationships. “Release,” you remind yourself. You realize that holding on is affecting your diet and health. “Release” applies to some of the extra weight you’ve gained as well. Throughout the year, you can see clearly how much you hold on. “Release” is your touchstone. It grows you throughout the year. It becomes your guiding force, not your harsh standard.
Your clutter became your teacher simply because you shifted your intent towards it. This wouldn’t have happened if you’d opted only to “Get Organized.”
What word to choose?
One is ideal.
It gives you focus.
If you master that one word to your satisfaction, you can choose another one in June.